What is it we take into account when we judge another person, based on our physical standards? Is it a scale of one to ten? Maybe, it’s dependent on the age factor “What will they look like in ten, twenty, thirty years?” Then again it could be a matter of body over facial feature “They do have a hard body, but not so pretty in the mug.”

No matter how you look at your search for that special someone, looks do matter. However, we’ve become so conditioned by the entertainment industry and social media that we tend to hold our standards too high. Where is the bar, and when do we hit it if it continues to be raised a little more each time?

I will be the first one to admit I do have physical standards of beauty. However I do not obsess on perfection. I look at my standards as a reasonable balance in what I am looking for in a relationship. I’m sure we have all heard the advice that the First Impression is Always the Most Important, well when it comes to meeting someone to date physical attraction is usually the catalyst for the approach. The simple fact is that we all want to be with someone we are attracted too, and who in turn is attracted to us.

“But isn’t what’s on the inside more important than what’s on the outside?” one would ask. My simple answer would be no. There must be a balance. If you entered a relationship strictly on the basis that someone is attractive, it’s quite possible they might be a soul sucking demon on the inside. On the other hand, if you had only the emotional attraction and yet could not find the person sexually arousing it would complicate the relationship from a lack of physical intimacy. It’s sad but true. However we often forget the age old adage that “Beauty is in the Eye of the Beholder.”

We are all a little narcissistic in our own ways, so we either feel we’re hot stuff or never good enough. But, our physical beauty is a subjective judgment made by those around us. So our physical standards are in turn subjective of the person we are attracted too.

Let me break down my standards in terminology that is extremely simplistic and almost crass. Would I kick them out of bed? If the answer is no, then they meet my standards. Though I use a “Closing Time” formula as an example, it’s better than asking the question “I wonder what they look like naked?” or “How do I get them into my bed?” Which sadly is what a lot of us find ourselves doing at times?

It’s very hard to find that balance, but it is achievable if we stop raising the bar every time our standards are met. Good luck out there folks.