Maybe the reasoning for lack of exposure for some guys is that they feel like In the public eye they will be viewed as dating a female. Here on this site it's evident that the male is interested in a transgender, which we all know in this society is still viewed as male, which causes them to fear exposure.

That's not love. You can't be seen in public together. Can't tell people who your man is? You basically just fuck buddies if you ask me!

I've been the angry guy with a shitty attitude in a public place with my girlfriend before and it's overwhelmingly because she insists on having the conversation there specifically, not necessarily because I'm a complete douchebag throwing a temper tantrum.It sort of strikes me as odd that you're in your mid-fourties and still volleying with this idea that good women always fall for crappy men.