I helped to raise five children that were not mine and had many things happen in my life that were both rewarding and wonderful and tragic and awful along the way, so mostly I grew apart from each partner, whether they were a man or a woman or a transgirl or some combination of that and we went our separate ways. I've been available for a few years now, partly because after I broke up with my last bf, because I found out he had a gambling addiction and other problems he'd been able to hide from me for nine months, and after my mother passed away I did not date because I was not emotionally available for two years or more.