Once again I find myself depressed and alone and I have to ask, am I the only one who gets horny when I am miserable? Everyone else I seem to know wants to be alone or isolated when they get depressed. It is an interesting phenomenon to me and one I cannot understand. Whenever I am feeling sad, upset, afraid, empty, exhausted I always long for someone to be there. Is that being needy? Of course saying something like ‘you are needy’ is purely a judgement and not terribly productive towards understanding or communication (that is unless one likes verbal masturbation, alone or in a crowd). Oh I don’t mean to say that I only get horny when I am upset, but it helps.

 I suppose part of the problem is that I want a relationship that is impossibly close, a relationship where there is trust, acceptance, little guilt or shame and a strong desire to be together mentally and physically. At least this is what people who have known me for any period of time tell me. Is it impossible to have a relationship like I want? Who knows. Plenty of people seem convinced it is not. Does that make me crazy or their thoughts just sad and depressing or maybe it means nothing or something that I am missing.

Back to the question of being horny – when do you get horny, and under what conditions or circumstances?