Why is it so difficult?

    Gail

    I guess it was naive of me to expect it to be easy but Jeez...does it have to be quite so hard? I'm talking about relationships of course. I thought going through transition was the toughest time of my life - the loss of friends and family members really hurt but I made out the other side finally living as myself, starting HRT, dressing as I always wanted...it all compensated but finding someone to share it with is a minefield. Being stuck in pre-op limbo doesn't help of course - since I'm living in pretty much in stealth mode, there is the possibility of going out on a regular date with someone who knows nothing of my background but this damned physical deformity I carry around leaves me highly vulnerable - I'm referring to the gender incongruity in case you get the idea I'm some kind of mutant though I've been called worse. Estrogen giveth and estrogen taketh away and I'm no match for most guys in a physical confrontation should events turn nasty.

    So there are sites like this where one bares all in a manner of speaking but in some ways the room for misunderstanding is even greater. I don't mean to act all Bridget Jones but, like most women, I would like to be in a loving, caring, exclusive relationship but I'm realistic; I fully expect ot kiss a few frogs before (if) I find my prince but I don't want to be just an item on someone's 'to do' list.

    Hell, I don't know - I'm not big on the social networking thing - not quite sure what 'following' means except it sounds disturbingly close to stalking but no-one can say I'm not open to new experiences so we'll see.

    To be continued (hopefully).

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      • Dean

        Gail, I think a relationship will come, my friend is Trans girl, she was my gf before she had problems with her sexuality and decided she liked girls :( . Now I'm a straight guy and never thought I would have a relationship with a Trans girl, but it was great while it lasted. Even though I knew who she was before we met, I only saw the girl that she was, I would go out with another trans girl, not because I'm kinky or a weirdo, I'm neither ask my friend :), but actually I like sharing new experiences and what newer experience can you have in changing genders. I also love to treat my partner like a lady, a thing it seems Trans girls yearn for the most :)