Looking For Love Must Be Passable
Everytime I see one of these trans-attracted men or chasers say they want love and relationship with a TG/TS woman but then say she must be passable I get irritated. That to me lets me know he is looking not for love and relationship with a woman of trans origin but really a porno fantasy and possible gay loop hole so he can do gay things with out his friends knowing he is bi at the very least. To me that also says that you are superficial and that physical appearance is more important to you then truely being happy with someone.
Trans-attracted men need to start standing up and being proud of who they are and stop worrying about their friends and parents opinion. Why should you woman take all the risk in making her transsition while you get to take the easy road being in the closet?
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Coulodn't have said it better myself!
Thanks for commenting Layla. :D
Why do people who seek not to be judge always pass this very judgment on others. I'm not saying you don't have the right to get irritated when you hear/read the word passable - but just as a woman wants someone 'fit' or 'tall' or with big feet, a man has the right to have some prerequisites. Isn't physical attraction part of being together? You want your partner to be physically appealing... When was the last time you sent a message to a man's profile and he had no picture posted? No matter how eloquent his words, you will want to get a visual of what this person looks like. Is that to say that you are only looking for something superficial? You can't want honesty, yet frown upon the honesty when it doesn't fit your reality.
Thanks for commenting Xavier. Actually I have replied to men's profiles with no pic. When someone states they want love but they say "must have a lot of money, be 6'5, have a 9" dick, a nice car, and a good personality", " must have size dd breasts, be passable, size 6 shoe, and a big dick, and a good personality be loving" you can obviously see what comes first in their mind. End of in my opinion. But feel free to continue the debate. :D
Thanks for your comment Emilio. I think for some men that is true about passability meaning attractive. However, I think most men say that because they don't want other people to know their girl has a penis. If they wanted to say attractive I'm sure they would say that. Ultimately what I am meaning to point out in my post is about people who say they want love, but place physical attributes above much more important attributes that are what relationships are built on. People say they want to be attracted to the person they are with, that I understand, however relationships are not built on how pretty or handsome a perspective partner's face is. :D
That one line just summed up what I believe you were trying to express in the original post. If that's the case then I can agree with you... but I'd say that it's a combination of things. You have to realize that most men that are "trans-attracted" to coin your term - are NOT attracted to masculinity. The more one embodies femininity, the more attracted they will be. The term for it, whether it's politically correct or not, is passable. Therefor it would be normal for them to say that they want someone that is passable or very passable or whatever.
What I believe your real issue to be is when a man cannot come to terms with his own sexuality - the age old question of whether or not being with a trangendered person makes them gay or not. That really has nothing to do with being or not being passable because this man can find the most 'passable' TS on earth and he'll still worry about being 'outed'. That's just a matter of fact. I've gone through that phase myself but thankfully I'm being that... At this point in my life I'd love find a t-girl that will goto the nude beach with me lol, that should be fun!
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