The term for it, whether it's politically correct or not, is passable. Therefor it would be normal for them to say that they want someone that is passable or very passable or whatever.

When someone states they want love but they say "must have a lot of money, be 6'5, have a 9" dick, a nice car, and a good personality", " must have size dd breasts, be passable, size 6 shoe, and a big dick, and a good personality be loving" you can obviously see what comes first in their mind.

I am looking for someone to share my journey with... I am now just a passable crossdresser in hopes to become fulltime to a transsexual....

I'm not saying you don't have the right to get irritated when you hear/read the word passable - but just as a woman wants someone 'fit' or 'tall' or with big feet, a man has the right to have some prerequisites.